The flatterer obtains its goal!
The flatterer obtains his or her goal through your misguided anxiety and fear of people. Once you become no longer useful to his or her personal agenda, you are dropped without notification, communication or explanation. Torment now has its perfect storm.
You ponder and wonder about what could have made this perfect person leave your life. Suddenly you’re searching for answers. While searching for your answers, your personality and temperament changes. You become increasingly paranoid about people and start to blame the world for your turmoil. You never really understand that is was the seduction of flattery which beguiled you. So you’re left holding an empty promise which has produced isolation and abandonment.
You may be saying to yourself, OMG!!! THIS IS ME!!! I experienced this!!!! You are also probably pondering how to sharpen your discernment against such openings. It really all begins with your relationship with Christ. It is within your relationship with Christ that you become accustomed to the private, familiar love language that you share. As stated before, flattery is used to obtain your private position and/or public possessions. Become skilled at God’s language for yourself. He has a specific way of speaking to you. He trains you on how to communicate His will in your life through your personal relationship with Him. This is the full-proof way of identifying the enemy of your soul. The enemy will not speak in the same nature as Christ does to you. The enemy’s perverted conversation will always invigorate your flesh as compared to Christ, who will permanently fuel you towards eternal life.
Because of the deliverance nature of my ministry, hundreds of people have come to me with flattering words. I remember such a time when there was a powerful manifestation of God’s glory that produced healing throughout the evening. Cancer was cured. People were able to walk again and relationships were saved. It was during this high potency of glory that my character and relationship with Christ was put on trial. For though God’s glory was magnified and His anointing on my life was potent, I still had insecurities. Insecurities occupy the hidden things that creep into the crevasses of your heart and grow like mold. You never really know they are there until a crisis comes along.
In addition, this element of insecurity was the foundation of my torment. I struggled with the thoughts of being good enough to serve mankind. It was whispered in the dawn of my awakening to who I was in Christ, that my skills were not adequate enough. Not realizing man’s optimism about my demise was the indicator that Christ was very pleased with me, I held on to the words of man. Because of this, only the words of man could satisfy my personal acceptance of who I was. Therefore, flattery tested my character.
One day, I accepted the words of one who latched on to me. I was pleased and thought that she was sent of God to help me with the ministry. She used my name and influence to build her own brand. Even went as far as to steal my identity and call my trusted friends her friends. Before it was all said and done, I almost lost everything. It broke me in such a way, that my relationship with people began to be challenged. I had to come to a place of understanding the lesson. First, I had to let go of my private torment and believe what Christ said about me. Secondly, I had to secure my own perimeters with His unfailing love. Thirdly, I had to stop looking for man to say “well done” and realize that this accolade can only come from God Himself. There is no reward man can give that equals in magnitude the meaning of Christ saying “well done”! Fourthly, I had to close my gates. The only words I hear now are my prayers and communication to Christ.
When you hear flattery, know that your character and relationship are being tested. When you know God, flattery will remain in the mouth of the one who spoke it. And for those who may have lost something because of flattery, God is saying, “YOU WILL RECOVER ALL!” Learn how to communicate with Christ and your heart will be secured and satisfied with His affection alone. And you will do great exploits for Him.
"And such as violate the covenant he shall pervert and seduce with flatteries, but the people who know their God shall prove themselves strong and shall stand firm and do exploits [for God].." Daniel 11:32